Frequently Asked Questions
Discover how Affinity works, what happens at our curated events and how we ensure privacy, comfort and quality connections.
General
Affinity is a curated social networking club that brings people together through real-world experiences, not dating apps or open, unmoderated platforms.
We host thoughtfully planned social events, supporting the Nottingham hospitality industry. From dining and culture to music, themed parties and relaxed daytime experiences — all designed for people who value quality connections, good conversation and a welcoming atmosphere.
Affinity is designed primarily for adults aged 30+ who are ready to invest in their social life and enjoy meaningful, well-hosted experiences.
Many of our members:
- Are established in life but looking to expand their social circle
- Have moved to the area or experienced a life change
- Want to meet people without apps or awkward open meetings
- Value kindness, inclusivity and quality experiences
You can come with friends, but many people join on their own.
No. Affinity is not a dating service.
Our focus is on friendship, community and shared experiences. Any connections that form happen naturally, without labels or expectations.
Membership
Yes! Your first event is free before we offer you a 3-month trial membership. Occasionally, we offer additional introductory events. Details are always shared on the website when available.
Membership allows us to protect the atmosphere and values of the community.
It helps us:
- Keep events curated and well-sized
- Encourage respectful behaviour and commitment
- Focus on quality over quantity
- Deliver consistently high-quality experiences
This approach creates a more welcoming and considered social environment.
Yes, absolutely.
Affinity is community-led, and member feedback plays an important role in shaping future events and experiences.
The system will email you (and the Affinity Team) when your trial runs out. The team will then approve your full membership and you’ll be sent a link for renewal.
Events
No. There’s no pressure to attend regularly.
You’re free to choose the events that suit you, your interests and your schedule.
If you book onto an event and can no longer attend, please let us know by clicking the button on the event page.
Each event is hosted and curated to create a relaxed, welcoming atmosphere.
You can expect:
- A warm welcome from the host
- Gentle introductions where helpful (never forced)
- Comfortable group sizes
- No pressure to perform or socialise in a certain way
You’re free to engage at your own pace.
Not at all. Many members attend events on their own, especially their first one.
Events are designed so you can arrive alone but never feel alone.
Our events vary throughout the year and may include:
- Dining experiences and supper clubs
- Live music, theatre and cultural outings
- Themed parties and social evenings
- Daytime socials, walks and relaxed catch-ups
Events are curated with intention, and numbers are kept manageable, although some events are larger than others.
That’s completely normal. Many members feel this way before their first event.
Our events are designed to be low-pressure, inclusive and hosted by people who care about creating a comfortable experience for everyone.
Privacy & Safety
Yes. Privacy and discretion are extremely important to us.
- Only your first name and profile photo are visible to other members
- Members cannot contact each other through the website
- Personal details are never shared publicly* or sold
All personal information is handled in line with UK GDPR regulations.
*If you redeem a Partner Offer, the participating venue will have access to your name and email address, and may potentially contact you, including with marketing communications, in accordance with their privacy policy.
No. There is no direct messaging between members on the website.
Any conversations or connections happen naturally, in person and at your own pace.
The only people who can contact you directly are:
- The Affinity team
- Event hosts, where relevant to an event you’re attending
This helps maintain a respectful, safe and pressure-free environment.
Events are hosted, curated and guided with care.
We actively promote:
- Respectful behaviour
- Inclusivity and kindness
- Quality over quantity
We reserve the right to protect the community and the experience for all members.
Affinity Partner Offers – For Members
Exclusive discounts and perks from venues and businesses across Nottingham and the surrounding areas, just for Affinity members.
Members with an active subscription.
Offers aren’t available on expired accounts, so keep your membership live to keep the perks!
Log in, find the offer, and show it on your phone at the venue.
The venue scans the QR code that appears on your phone and enters their PIN to redeem it, no vouchers or printing needed.
The offer also shows staff any special instructions, so redemption is quick and easy.
Offers can be used again and again, while the offer is live.
On the Offers page, new ones are added regularly so it’s worth checking back.
Offers are for members only and can’t be transferred, but your friends can always join and get their own account.
Some are ongoing, some are limited-time. The dates are on each offer, so grab the good ones while they’re live!
If you redeem a Partner Offer, the participating venue will have access to your name and email address, and may potentially contact you, including with marketing communications, in accordance with their privacy policy.
When you arrive, it might be best to check with the venue that they’re able to scan your QR code, this can be done on any device.
Venues reserve the right to refuse or cancel an offer at any time. Affinity isn’t liable for technical issues with scanning or any failure in the redemption process.
If you have any problems redeeming an offer, please get in touch and we’ll do our best to resolve the issue.
Affinity Partner Offers – For Partners
Yes. No joining fee, no commission, no catch.
If that ever changes, existing partners will be told well in advance.
Restaurants, bars, cafés, venues, experiences, if members would love it, we’d love to hear from you.
We check every application personally, usually within 1-2 working days.
Yes, manage multiple venues and multiple offers per venue, all from one account.
Any time, from your dashboard.
Yes, set start and end dates for each offer in your dashboard, and your offer goes live and expires automatically.
Yes, add any restrictions or special requirements when creating your offer. Staff and Affinity Members see them at the point of redemption.
Affinity members only, so your offer stays exclusive.
We may also promote your offers on social media to give your venue additional exposure.
Yes, you can log into your dashboard and see how many times and who has redeemed your offers.
How do I join?
You can register and view upcoming events directly on our website here!